What better way to celebrate Independence Day than commencing my training for my first 5k! I started this journey a few years back and quit but this time is different. This time not only do I have SO MUCH support from friends who run but I have that precious little girl that will start mimicking my every action…this is one I won’t mind her replicating. Wish me luck!!!!
You want to know when my husband and I fight? When one of us is trying to control the other in some way.
Sure we have those typical couple fights: money, waking the baby, what do you want for dinner (why is that always such a hard question).
But when I get down to it most of our fights are about some element of control. But the big question is why?! Why are we trying to control one another and for what purpose?!
Some of the reasons I thought of were: for safety (“babe get off that ladder it’s broken”); for companionship (“I don’t want you to go out tonight”); but the one that made the most sense was for self improvement.
Wait, Modo how do you control someone to improve yourself?!
You can’t! But this is how you fool yourself into thinking you can. Peep the scenario below:
My hubby and I started this meal plan. I bought all the food. Prepped. And printed out the list. The first day while he was at work I cheated. Yep before lunch I at chocolate. The next day he was going to cheat and I went IN on him. Then I realized I wasn’t going off on him I was really going off on myself. I didn’t want to do that damn meal plan in the beginning. Who was I kidding?
I needed to improve my eating habits, so I decided to control my husbands. Sound insane?! It IS!!!!! Lol
I told y’all to pray for me.
Ultimately we have to do US! Focus on you. Make YOU a better YOU! When we both focus more on bettering ourselves and just loving the other person we have the best days. Those are the days we kiss the most, laugh the hardest, and fall in love again.
Anyone else have crazy stories like this? Anyone feel my pain?!
Always with love,
*Please remember all my tips and tutorials are my opinion. I am not an expert. *
My apologies this is going up late, been one of those weeks! I’m working on achieving my deadlines y’all 🙏 for me 😘
While getting ready to blow dry my hair I must admit I was dreading it. I had flashbacks to my adolescent years of sitting in between my moms legs, being threatened that if I didn’t stop crying I would go to church with my head looking a mess (lol love you mom). I have thick hair; really thick hair and combing that with being tender headed (is that even really a real thing) getting my hair done as a kid was not usually a fun task. But let me tell you I was done blow drying my hair in TEN MINUTES!!!!
Here are the steps I took:
1. Before washing my hair I deep conditioned it (on dry hair) and sat with treatment on for thirty minutes (which turned into 1.5 hours….don’t judge me I have a 8 month old)
2. Put the baby to sleep (trust me when I say you want to do this uninterrupted or your hair will get dry and it will take double the time)
3. Got in shower and rinsed out condition treatment
4. Washed hair with conditioner ( I’ll do a products post if anyone is interested).
5. While still in the shower combed out hair with wide tooth comb. For me it’s so much easier to comb out my hair with slip.
6. Rinse out conditioner
7. Section hair in four parts (yes still in the shower…see why I put the baby to sleep)
❗️So of course you are probably saying this all has had to take more than 10 minutes. Yes! The process leading up to the blow dry took me about 30 minutes (remember I have thick and bra strap length hair. Time may vary for you. But what’s important to to set up everything right so you have to actually blow dry less and put fewer minutes heat on your hair).
8. After sectioning off hair get out shower. DO NOT WRAP HAIR IN ANYTHING. Let it be soaking wet.
9. Plug in hair dryer
10. I then take one braid and run my hands down the braid to get excess water off.
11. Take a dime size amount of heat protectant (I use an oil) and massage into hair from ends up and immediately blow dry on medium heat. Just a minute or so. My goal is not to get my hair bone straight but give it length for a hair style I am trying to achieve (in this case a braid out).
12. Take hair section after dry and twist into a loose Bantu knot to keep out of way.
13. Repeat on other three sections
14. Style (it’s SO important to put moisture back in hair after blow drying. So I completed the LOC method -after taking a few pics of course- and put my hair into a braidout).
Completed look: (sorry forgot to take a close up)
Let me know how you achieve the perfectly blowout on your natural hair!
Always with love,